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Lalita Iyer takes you through it all in her book I’m pregnant not terminally ill, you idiot! An exclusive extract follows:When you are pregnant, people expect you to turn into this goddess who is a temple of calm, doesn’t display negative emotions, like anger, jealousy or bihiness, doesn’t use swear words (what if the baby picks them up?) and in general, is smiling and cheerful all the time. That, to me is the most frustrating part of pregnancy. Yes, the good hormones do ward off the bad energy, but there are bad days for everyone. And sometimes, you lose it.

Rashi, who had a four year old when I was pregnant, told me I should get a new vocabulary. ‘The last time you were here, my daughter picked up st!’

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My point was, yes, but if I don’t let off steam, the baby will be listening to all my repressed anger, and that might be worse. In short, nothing in your life has changed, except that there is a spectator inside you who is taking it all in. The only way you can become the epitome of calm is if you stop going to work, travelling anywhere, talking to anyone, and just staying put and listening to Bach at home. Sure, there were fleeting moments of peace and quiet, when the husband would indulge me with his famous calf massage, pour me an occasional glass of wine or beer (yes!), and we would talk to the baby in dulcet tones. It felt like this was canada goose outlet factory the best time of my life and I had never been so tranquil or centred before. Till I went to work the next day. And found that life and the universe around me was pretty much the same as before.

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Yes, thinking good thoughts, listening to ‘good music’ and reading ‘good books’ and looking at pretty things is a recipe for a happy pregnancy, but how easy is it to see it through really? And then there are the pregnophobes (read people who hate you because you are pregnant). So cynical singletons and manhaters now hate you even more because you are an affirmation of womanhood. Your GBF (gay best friend) now realises that the womb will be a permanent wall canada goose outlet hong kong between you and him. Procreation is something that will never figure in his life. Maternity leave will never be in his list of company benefits.

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A pregnant woman signifies different things to different people. At the very basic level a marriage, a man, and sex. At a deeper level permanence, continuum, hope, dreams. So the way you perceive a pregnant woman boils down to what your aspirations are, how you see yourself a few years from now, what is your relationship stage, what you expect from a man/relationship, how much of it is coming true. Somehow, coming face to face or canada goose outlet being in close proximity with a pregnant woman fast forwards your thinking to a large extent about such things. It highlights why your life is not moving in that direction. So you end up hating the pregnant

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With such negativity around, it is not the easiest thing to be a nice person when you are pregnant. And then the whole world begins to bombard you with advice, which makes it even worse. Yes, the hormones are supposed to be doing their work and making you feel all maternal and nesting, someone who is the epitome of zen. But even after the unease of the first trimester has settled down and your feel good phase is about to begin, you will still find yourself rattled every once in a canada goose outlet nyc while. letting. One night, I was feeling particularly restless and the husband still hadn’t come to bed. I stormed into his room (aptly called the gaming room). ‘Why aren’t you in bed yet? It’s 2 am!’

‘Err. I was just trying to finish a level (gaming lingo, which means kill some people, loot and plunder some). I promise I will be in bed in half an hour.’

I piped up.

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